Category: the Rant Board
Well, I know I haven't posted on any of the boards. I'm rarely on here. I thought I would post a rant though, maybe I could get some advice from someone?
Well, I need to rant. I have a friend who is in a really tough situation right now. Basically, to put it as a long story short, she had this guy fuck around with her for a couple months. She really started to like him after time went by, and thought that he liked her the same way. He even told her that he liked her in that way, but she figured that something was weird about it. She discovered his live journal one night while she was surfing around on her friend’s page one evening, and found his. She read a few entries, and noticed he was talking about another girl. She thought that considering he was talking about this girl was a few entries back, that nothing was going on anymore and he was telling the truth. He continued to having the regular conversations with her that they were having all the time,. This lasted for at least a couple of weeks. After that, she noticed that he was avoiding her, and she wasn’t sure what was going on. She found out after a few days that he started hitting on another person and totally dropped her like a hot potato, at least for a while anyway. So, after a few more days of that, he came back to her and tried to talk to her like normal. She thought that maybe he didn’t really know what he wanted, and that maybe he needed a break from her. Then she found out that he has a girlfriend, and he’s had her for a while… He had lied to her the whole time, making her look like she is the easy type of girl who thinks she can get any guy if she wanted to. You know, that really, really pisses me off to see guys do that to girls, especially when the girl is really starting to have feelings for the guy. Anyway, that’s my rant for the day peoples… thought I might share it.
Firstly, I'm sure girls do that to guys as well, and homexuals of the same genda sometimes do that to each other too. That though doesn't make it any better, I know. The only advice I can give for that situation, is that the girl is obviously beter of without the guy she was with. He was insecure, and weak. She should have probably got rid of him a bit earlier, or tried to make him earn his trust. However, the situation has to be dealt with as it is, and that may not necessarily reflect how it should have been. The girl should probably stay single for awhile so that she can get over the relationship and come to terms with what's happened. If she chooses to have another boyfriend, she must realise that no two people are exactly the same, and she should try to make sure that her judgement of the next partner she has isn't affected by what happened in her last relationship. I know that's hard, but she has to think of the other person in the next relationship she's in as well as herself and what's best for them both, not just what's best for her if her next relationship is going to work. If it doesn't though, and she has a few which don't work, that doesn't mean that she'll never find the right person and have a sucessful relationship. She should be aware of the possibility of the relationship not working out, even while she's in it, so that if it cdoesn't, she won't feel as bad about it as she would if she though it was definitely going to work.
homsexuals of the same gender? there is no other kind you imbecile, except bisexuals, and they are not counted as being totally gay.
Well otherwise - it's true Wayne, the girl is better off without that guy then.
not as totally gay as you anyway Goblin.
Just do like me: Skip relationships altogether! I've been the happiest I've ever been since deciding to abstain from the love race... It feels great to be on the outside looking in on heart problems.
If she's hell-bent on having a lover, however, do help her dump the fellow. Men like him are a dime a dozen, and that's a price hike.
Finding the perfect guy (or girl) is a very difficult game. You can filter out all the people you think are dirt all you want... even so, there will inevitably be pieces you've missed.
Men and women screw each other over all the time (The Michelle I once knew, for instance... god she turned out to be such a bitch). I don't normally call women such names, as I've a deep respect and affection for them... but she just was. The reason I bring that up is: girls can be just as cruel as men.
I used to think that men were evil little bastards... I know better now. It's an even race, and there's no winning in it, just losing.
Slap her around a bit and make her realize he's just taking advantage of her generocity, forgiveness, etc!
Wraith, I guess that just makes you a wanker then. lol
He's a wankerin' bear. He's a wankerin' bear... hehehehe
*sexy*
that's rich coming from the cucumbear!
That from the camam bear.
hahahahah, Kev. Are you then the goblin bear?
*sexy*
No! he's some miserable scotish twat that posts absolute nonsense all over the zone.
amen BB. yeah! grin
I don't think there's anything wrong in people having a little fun, but never at the expense of others.
Whenever I've wound up in a situation where I've wanted some fun, either for real or just phone whatever, I have always made it perfectly clear in advance, nicely of course, that it is not some kind of prelude to something more, and that if the other person is not happy about that then of course we wouldn't do anything, no hard feelings.
However, you do have to be very sensative and careful, because when I was at Uny, I had a kind of friends with extras situation with another student in my halls which was fine, convenient and fun for both of us, and we kept on telling each other that it was only fun, only friends, no commitment, no boyfriend girlfriend love just a more general friendly caring love and a physical atraction and nothing more than 2 horny people who had both been hurt in the past by partners cheating on them comforting each other, fulfilling a need as a favour to each other if you like, with no hard feelings afterwards.
However, one day, I did actually meet someone, and I sat down with my friend and gently reminded her about the pledge we had made to each other that at the first kiss either of us shared with someone we liked as more than just a friend, our extras would have to stop. She got quite mad with me to be honest, and I was shocked, because only a few days before, she had told me yet again, that she didn't love me, didn't want me as more than a close friend, and was perfectly happy for the situation to go on as before. Of course it turned out that in fact for both of us, we had grown a lot more fond of each other than we had realised or admitted to ourselves, and it took my kissing someone else to make us realise what had happened. But we had a good long cuddle and cry together, and agreed that we had promised each other never to get attached too much, and that a propper relationship between us as boyfriend and girlfriend just wouldn't work in the real world for all sorts of reasons, and we carried on being just normal but close friends after that, and I did start dating the person I met which was all very nice.
Nothing ever happened with my close friend after that however, even when I stopped dating the other person, because although it could have done, I would have felt really guilty about doing that, even though we had agreed the whole no attachment thing. It just would have been wrong.
Matt
You know, on reflection, this sounds incredibly like Sudsy you're talking about. Hmm, what a surprise.
Some guys do that to girls but on the other side of the coin, girls do that to guys too sometimes.
I've honestly never, in my time, seen a "friends with benefits" situation that didn't get out of hand (meaning where one person actually grew attached) despite whatever people declared at the beginning. I, personally, avoid those things too, I think love making is just too special to be considered or treated as casual fun and all my experience and that of my friends seems to confirm that.
But I"m sure some people make it work, just keep in mind it can get tricky or ugly (whatever the difference is) and is usually a lot more complex than it seems to be.
Sometimes, may be, you may find it worth the trouble, depends on your personality.
As for the original topic of this discussion, heck, all sorts ofpeople do questionable and downright wrong things in the world, no need to single them out, and it's not gender specific by any means. And even good and people with best intensions make mistakes and do wrong things, it's just part of being human.
cheers
-B
agreed wb.
Well, saying that all men do this, is perhaps a blanket statement. Although, some are an acception.
I think it depends on the man, or so I hope?
Well, saying that all men do this, is perhaps a blanket statement. Although, some are an acception.
I think it depends on the man, or so I hope?
I had a guy that I really liked and still do, and he used me for what he needed for 2 years and now I am not sure even if he is still alive because he said sunday night he was going to take his life yesterday and I wasn't able to get ahold of him last night so not really sure, but I am angry with him because he would call me and ask me computer questions or whatever and then not want to talk about anything and want to hang up. but then I feel guilty because what if he is dead do I have a right to be angry?
of course you have a right to be angry.
He shouldn't be guilting you, however.
son of a bitch sounds like a real piece a work. Mind you is it not pretty bad when a girl tells u she loves u invokes your trust after 2 years then tells you she's confused about her sexuality then ditches you? Or when a girl leads u up the garden path then ditches u for someone else by which i mean gets the other fella days after fuck some even minutes after. Don't get me wrong there's guys do that too it takes 2 all that bull but this is by no means a 1 sided arguement. speaking from experience sadly yes on both counts.
agreed with post 17. and also. i hate men who cheat on their gf's or wives.
I did that wons, just because I knew she was easy. As soon as me got what me wanted, I said by by! Lol.
poor old steph
not cool. ya u say lol. but that really is not cool that ppl do that kind of crap
Hey she her self admits that she is easy. She be smileing her ass off. She is prowd of it. So like what the hek!
but for heaven's sake, do you think it's fair on her friend, telling us all about her love life? I think not! gosh some people!
Hey I really don't care, as she is not my friend any more. The bitch does not want to know about me any more.
agreed with post 29
Like who cares!
u know. this is the rant board. other people have the right to leave their posts giving their opinions.
Blah blah blah!
whatever. it is obvious by your immature posts that u have no life what so ever.
Bitch if you do not want to read what I write, you know what to do. And fuck you!
Please, can we not start drama?
And just let him be, because he's not going to change.
i realize that. this is y i am letting his comments about me being a bitch roll off me like water.
because obviously he does not know me, therefore, he cannot make an accurate judgment as to weather i am a bitch or not..
Bitch bitch bitch its what you are. And it was a one time shit! So what the fuck. No one is perfiked.
Fatherbear, I would greatly appreciate it if you would not call Somanea those things. You don't know her, therefore, you have no right to call her anything.
and i really whole heartedly agree with post number 1.
I agree. It was totally disrespectful.
smiles. thanks james and jeannie
No problem Somanea! I'm here to help.
huggs james. thanks man.
Conyo fucking puta!
u, fatherbear, r a coward
you put me on ignore, just because i was getting sick of what you were referring to me as, and then u post that. that is just downright cowardice since now, i cannot respond.
No Somanea. You can not respond, but if necessary, I can and I will.
I don't have time for your shit any more.
well father bear. it is not right calling me a bitch, and then putting me on ignore so i cannot respond to u. that is just downright mean.
Look at post 52. We don't have time either.
u know father bear. i was giving my opinion out here. and u had to blow it out of perportion and take it as a personal attack upon yourself. and furthermore. calling me a bitch was completely uncalled for.
come on gang, you're taking the attention away from Sexy Steph, and I don't think she'd like that, Lol
I'll bring everything back on track.
Both guys and girls cheat. Many people cannot be trusted in this wonderful world of ours.
Friends with benefits can work for those that are both shallow and immature; to whom the vallue of friendship and integrity means nothing. That's the only time that it can work and hell, why not? Let those who hurt others be with those who hurt others. LOL. They deserve nothing more.
And yeah, Guys can be untrustworthy but, so can girls as well.
I have a friend who moved in with a so called boyfriend. She found out that he liked her for the money, and so did his parents. They were using my friend, which I don't think is right!
Well, we all use each other whether we mean to or not.